#DearMe

I am participating in the #DearMe campaign for International Women’s Day. I love this idea and it’s something that I’ve always wanted to do, I’ve just been waiting for the right opportunity to do something like this. I am addressing this letter to my 15 year-old self, during that certain period when everything just sucked for me.

Dear 15 year-old Claudine,

Surprise! I know you won’t believe this because you’re just not the type to fall for such things, but I am the future Claudine, and I am here to congratulate you in advance for surviving your treacherous teenage years.

“What surviving? I am literally dying out here!” Oh dear, I know life sucks for you right now, but everything will get better, I promise. Now, before you dismiss this whole thing as a lie, I’ve got a few things to tell you and I hope you take them seriously:

First, come out of your shell. I know you know you are awesome, so why are you hiding it? Come on out and show everyone what you’ve got. Tell them your thoughts, show them what you’re capable of. People are not as judgmental as you make them out to be. Don’t hide that voice because soon enough, everyone who hears it will love you for it. Remember that.

Second, don’t worry about having only a few close friends. So what if you’re not popular? All the popularity and the number of your friends doesn’t matter, because one of the most important things you’ll learn as you go through life is that not everyone stays by your side. Some people naturally drift apart and some people will leave you when things get rough, so choose your friends wisely. (And you know what? The friends you do have right now are the best you’ll ever have. Take care of them.)

Third, don’t be afraid to say no. I know you are kind, but don’t let other people take advantage of your kindness. It’s not your obligation to please other people so don’t ever let them pressure you.

Finally, don’t ever think that you are not worthy of love. That is simply not true because you are wonderful in every way. Don’t feel pressured just because you haven’t found that kind of love yet; you need to love yourself first and be confident in your own skin. I know this sounds cheesy but he’s definitely out there, and you’ll meet him someday when you’re ready. He’s also pretty messed up right now just like you, but when you meet him, you will realize that he was worth the wait.

Yes my dear, your life is not and will never be perfect, but you can make beautiful things out of those imperfections. Stay awesome because everything will be so much better in a few years. Trust me.

Love,
Your 21 year-old self

24 Comments

  1. Claudine!! We have the same sentiments! I mean all of them! I do understand you on the second part, I use to be sad because I really have few close friends but when I think about it now, It’s not really bad at all because I know who I can count on <3

    And most of the time, it's hard to say No, but we really need it because some people will really take advantage of it. I know what it feels!! But question, what if it was your crush's offer? Will you accept it? haha

    Very well said on the last part :(( Im kinda pressured too because my cousins are getting married lol and I'm like here finishing all the requirements but I know in time, everything will fall into places.

    Happy Women's Day dear! 🙂

    1. I’m glad that you have great friends whom you can depend on! That’s the beauty of close friendships <3

      You mean, if my crush asked me to do him a favor? Lol, it depends on what kind of favor I'll be doing for him! HAHAHA

      Ooooh, don't feel pressured! You're still young so focus on yourself first! You know your priorities so just do your best in whatever you're doing, everything will fall into place once you're ready 😀

  2. This campaign is beautiful and reading this makes me smile! Yeah, we all love to tell our past stuff that we see now, but that’s the beautiful of growing, the mistakes. We learn through the mistakes and sadness we go through. I find mistakes beautiful, honestly. They help us get back up and mature into the person we are meant to be.

    Beautiful. Beautiful! <3

    1. Thank you, Michelle! 🙂 I agree with you. Mistakes helps up learn and mature as individuals. Mistakes help us become stronger because it’s not always easy to get back up and keep trying. 🙂

  3. Yeah. It definitely feels great. iPad with keyboard case feels like a mini laptop. Haha.

    I totally agree with you on the second point. In fact, I lost a lot of my friends as I grow up. I’m glad that I still got some friends whom I know I can rely on when I need it.

    1. It’s good that you have close friends that you can rely on no matter how long you’ve been apart. You can’t have that kind of connection with just anyone 🙂

      I think losing friends as we grow older is natural. After all, not all people are meant to stay in our lives and as I said, some people just naturally drift away from you for whatever reason.

  4. Lovely letter 🙂

    And good on you for knowing that popularity isn’t everything! I prefer having a few friends that I can deeply cherish. It makes it more intimate for me.

    And spot on about never being unworthy of love. Everyone is 😀

    1. Thank you Tara! 🙂

      I’m glad that we feel the same way about friendships! It feels so much better to have friends whom you know inside and out 😀 But of course when you’re a teenager you always wish you were more popular, lol 😛

      Everyone definitely deserves to be loved! There will always be people who will appreciate us for who we are! 🙂

  5. Awww, a few of my blogger friends did this and I think it’s a wonderful idea! I write a lot of letters to my ol’ self on retreats I’ve been on but every year / almost everyday the letter would be different. Maybe one day I’ll publish a blog and share with others what I would tell myself too!

    Great advice btdubs, sounds like you’ve grown a lot in the past 6 years!

    1. Every day is a different experience and brings different lessons as well, so I think the letters being different every time you write them is a good reflection of how much you’ve changed or how much you’ve learned for the past few years. 🙂

      I look forward to that blog entry! I’m sure you’ll have lots of valuable things to tell your younger self 🙂

  6. It’s amazing how much can change within the past few years! Coming out to be your true self is one of the best things you can do. You’re not lying to yourself and you feel much free doing so :). And the number of friends don’t matter. It’s the quality of them that does! I rather have a few close friends than a hundred not so close friends! And saying no will take you through a better path. Sometimes, it’s best because you don’t put yourself into bad situations!

    🙂

    1. I agree, being true to myself and not relying on other people’s judgments really did wonders for me. It also helped me become more confident and stand up for what I really want.

      Lol, you’re right about saying no. When I say yes all the time with the aim to please other people, I always find myself in sticky situations!

  7. Aw, this is a sweet letter to yourself! I definitely agree with the close friends thing. It’s not about having more, but having ones that will really stick with you and be there. The third is also great advice. It can be hard to say “no”, but if you never do it, people think they can ask anything of you. It’s not a good position to be in.

    Everyone is worthy of love, and that’s great to know that you’ve found the love you’ve been looking for 😀

    1. I’m glad you agree with my points 😀 When you’re young, you want to be friends with and be liked by everyone but as you grow, you’ll find out who will really stick with you 🙂

      Saying no was definitely hard for me since I was a people-pleaser, but when I learned to do it, I felt so much more comfortable with myself. I also got to avoid awkward situations!

      I’m glad I found that love too, no matter how long it took 🙂

  8. Your letter is just beautiful! Life is a splendid little thing, and the mistakes and broken hearts just makes it wonderful all the more.

    Stay strong and I hope that the positivity that you radiate would continue to glow. 🙂

    1. I agree! Those mistakes and heartbreaks that we experience enable us to grow into more mature individuals 🙂

      Thank you and I hope other young girls could learn from this 🙂

  9. This is beautiful, Claudine! I feel like you were writing this to me, because if I were to write a letter to my 15-year-old self, I would have written a lot of the same things. I was always shy and insecure and only had a few close friends, and now I cherish those friendships more than anything. Much love!

    1. I’m glad you could relate, Becca! 🙂

      I’m glad your friends have stuck with you till now! When you have friends like them, popularity or the number of your friends doesn’t matter. You know they’ll be there no matter what 🙂

  10. It is extremely amazing, how one change over time. This letter made me smile. What a wonderful letter to your 15 year old self.

    I congratulate you for your 15 year old self in thinking that being popular isn’t everything. I thought this way too. Yes, I did know a lot of people, but that was due to joining choir. And even then, I didn’t have much friends. Just my little circle of friends. Which are now acquaintances (if that).

    Again, I really liked this letter.

    1. Thank you Jamie! 🙂

      I can relate to your experience. I’ve met some people whom I considered my friends, but I guess time and distance made us drift apart and I feel like we’re strangers now. I guess it just happens to some people. We just have to find those friends whom we can truly depend on no matter the distance 🙂

  11. This is really beautiful. I hope that in writing it you have also been able to remind yourself of all the things that matter most. 🙂

    1. Definitely! This project made me think of the things that bothered me so much as a teenager, and now I realize that there was absolutely no reason for me to worry because there are so many things to be thankful for. 🙂

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